10 Sex Toys for All Genders and How to Use Them

With so much pressure surrounding sex, you can forget intercourse and masturbation can just be fun games adults play.

Where do you find out which gadget (or several) are right for you? The internet, obviously. But so you don’t get caught with a lot of lewd search terms on your history, we’ve done the kinky research for you. Regardless if you are gay, straight, bisexual, pansexual, a lesbian or questioning, here is a list of sex toys that will bring pleasure to every sexual and gender identity.

A quick tip before you order one of these devices: don’t buy your sex toys off Amazon or other unverified online retailers. Many are not FDA-approved and have been linked to causing cancer and infertility. Sex toys can be made with jelly-like plastic sheaths are produced with phthalates – chemicals used to produce some water bottles – and can be dangerous if they seep into your system. Here are some non-toxic toys that will transform your body into a playground.

Finger Vibrators

What They Do: Usually rubbery (or ridged) pads you place over your fingertips, these temptations turn your hands into vibrators, each finger a dildo. Usually, they are composed of an adjustable ring with a pad that provides pleasure. The bigger the bullet, the more intense the sensations they’ll bring.

How to Use Them:Strap these trembling toys onto your fingers. They will likely need lubricant – many finger vibrators are textured and can feel harsh when used raw against a clitoris or other sensitive areas. Trace the vibrators over nipples, hips, inner thighs, and backside to tease your partner before applying it in more delicate areas. Feel free to adjust where it perches on your finger – the further down it rests, the more control you will have.

Thrusting Dildos

What They Do:Some of the newest and most innovative sex toys to hit the market, thrusting dildos or “pulsators” penetrate by retracting and expanding back and forth. Whether you apply them vaginally or anally, they simulate penetrative sex.

How to Use Them:These bad boys take care of you, without you needing to lift a finger. There’s usually no need for a partner with thrusting dildos, especially if they come with a vibrator that stimulates you, rabbit-style.

Rabbit Vibrators

What They Do:What is rabbit-style you ask? Best known for being FilipinoCupid featured on Sex and the City, the rabbit penetrates the vagina while fluttering on one’s clitoris. This allows both areas to be aroused at once. Usually, they include a variety of speeds and settings or can thrust.

How to Use Them:Set the vibrations to your optimal movements and pace, working your way up. Pulse the dildo end inside you, until you are at your perfect, most pleasurable rhythm. If it thrusts, this can be hands-free.

When the Sex and the City Rabbit episode aired 20 years ago, the vibrator’s maker, , didn’t know why sales had suddenly jumped. They didn’t have HBO & only saw the episode after a client sent them a VHS tape. #SexandtheCity


What They Do:Just like the rabbit, this toy uses two parts: the harness and the dildo. The harness straps to your crotch allowing you to penetrate your partner with the strap-on dildo, which has a flat base. These types of dildos can lay flat and secured on a surface. You can even enjoy them without the harness.

How to Use Them: Strap onto your body and penetrate your partner. Check out our 27 Lesbian Sex Tips Porn Won’t Teach You for more detailed instructions. Here’s a taste: If you’re wearing a strap-on and penetrating doggy-style, try using a belt (preferably leather.) Loop it under her stomach/hips and hold the end with one hand and the buckle-end with the other. This will give you more thrust and control.